HI, I'M TRACY MAY

LOVE & RELATIONSHIP COACH

I'm so glad you're here

If we were sitting across the table right now, maybe over coffee or a glass of wine, I’d probably lean in and tell you something that, for years, I could barely admit to myself…

From the outside, I had it all—success, confidence, and a beautiful life. But behind closed doors?

If we were sitting across the table right now, maybe over coffee or a glass of wine, I’d probably lean in and tell you something that, for years, I could barely admit to myself…

From the outside, I had it all—success, confidence, and a beautiful life. But behind closed doors?

It was a different story.
It was a different story.

I’m a driven, successful entrepreneur, and I started my first business 40 years ago as a single mom with an infant and a 5-year-old—after I packed my first husband’s bags and kicked him out while I was four months pregnant. I was done being yelled at, called names, and bullied.

But that wasn’t the end of my struggles. My ex-fiancé beat me over a butter dish left on the counter. Another time, it was because a red sock ended up in the white laundry. My second husband, who I built a thriving business with for over 22 years, not only raged at me behind closed doors but also led a secret life of strippers and prostitutes that I had no idea about. He was an expert at hiding things.  

I’m a driven, successful entrepreneur, and I started my first business 40 years ago as a single mom with an infant and a 5-year-old—after I packed my first husband’s bags and kicked him out while I was four months pregnant. I was done being yelled at, called names, and bullied.

But that wasn’t the end of my struggles. My ex-fiancé beat me over a butter dish left on the counter. Another time, it was because a red sock ended up in the white laundry. My second husband, who I built a thriving business with for over 22 years, not only raged at me behind closed doors but also led a secret life of strippers and prostitutes that I had no idea about. He was an expert at hiding things.  

And I no longer was the vibrant, motivated, joyful woman I once had been. I felt small and invisible.

And I no longer was the vibrant, motivated, joyful woman I once had been. I felt small and invisible.

For years, I thought I was the failure.

After all, I had been in three long-term, abusive relationships with narcissists—wasn’t the common denominator me? Maybe I just wasn’t lovable enough, or maybe I needed to be better, try harder, be perfect.

But here’s what I didn’t see back then…

But here’s what I didn’t see back then…

I grew up in a home that taught me love had to be earned. My mom was an alcoholic in and out of rehab, my dad left when I was three, and my stepdad was a raging, alcoholic who terrified me. I learned to walk on eggshells before I even knew what that meant. I learned that keeping the peace, being perfect, and making myself small were the only ways to survive.

So, when I ended up in abusive relationships as an adult, I didn’t recognize them for what they were. They didn’t start out as abusive. In the beginning, they were charming, loving, and everything I had ever wanted—until they weren’t.

And that’s why I know, deep in my bones, what you’re going through.

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Maybe you don’t even know for sure if what you’re experiencing is abuse

Maybe you just know something feels off, but you keep convincing yourself that if he would just stop being angry, if you could just do things right, if you could just be better, then everything would be okay.

I know, because I lived that for decades.

And if you’re anything like I was, you’ve spent years reading books, doing therapy, watching videos, trying everything you can to fix yourself and your relationship.

I tried to love harder. I tried to be the perfect wife. I tried to prove I was good enough. I thought if I could just do enough, he would finally see me, love me, treat me the way I longed for, the way he did in the beginning.

But that was the trap—what I now call the High-Achievers Heartbreak Trap.

As high-achieving women, we’re used to solving problems, making things happen, and figuring things out. We don’t fail. But when it comes to love, we take on too much responsibility for making the relationship work. We keep trying, fixing, bending, and losing ourselves in the process.

And that’s why nothing changes.

Your story might look different from mine. Maybe your life has been easier, or maybe it’s been even harder.

But if you’re waking up every day wondering how your life got here… if you feel trapped, walking on eggshells, confused about how someone who once made you feel so loved can now make you feel so small…

Then I want you to know the truth: It’s not your fault.

You’re not broken. You’re not crazy. And you don’t have to keep living this way.

And more importantly? There’s a way out.

The reason you feel so trapped isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough—it’s because no one ever taught you how to break free from the patterns that were wired into you long before you ever met him.

That’s where I come in.

I help high-achieving women like you finally stop the cycle—whether that means healing the relationship or finding the strength to leave. I help you take back your power, feel safe in your own skin again, and finally have the deep love and connection you’ve always longed for.

Because you don’t have to keep walking on eggshells.. You don’t have to keep sacrificing yourself just to keep the peace.

And you don’t have to do this alone.

I see you. I was you. And I can help you find your way back to you.

I don’t just help women leave—I help them truly break free.

Because I know what it’s like to leave and still feel trapped inside.

I know what it’s like to start over, only to find yourself in another version of the same relationship.

And I know what it takes to heal, rebuild, and finally create the love you long for.

So if you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and start reclaiming yourself…

I’d love to walk that path with you.